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- Vacation: Europe 2014 ($20k)
- Vacation: Coachella 2014 ($3k)
- Vacation: Vegas 2014 ($7k)
- Vacation: Vegas 2013 ($5k)
- Vacation: Coachella 2013 ($3k)
- Vacation: Marilyn Manson 2013 ($1k)
- Vacation: Disneyland 2013 ($6k)
- Vacation: Riviera Maya 2012 ($10k)
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- Noteworth Month: June 2014 ($9k)
- Noteworthy Month: Oct 2013 ($12k)
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Heartless Beauties Update: Detroit Trip
It’s no secret that recently my best friend Ms Morgan Chase opened her new dungeon in the city of Detroit. Her dungeon, Chateau Detroit is the home of the 2014 Fetish Gala for which I am a guest of honor and I just wanted to make a quick blog to show my support for this space. My experience here has been 100% pleasant and I’ve gotten to film with some VERY well known named including the legendary Mistrix Ms. E who has been a world renown fetish model for over 25 years - among the many clips we filmed, my favorite triple Domme clip was the AMAZING pantyhose destruction clip we made. It was absolutely fierce!
This has been a great opportunity for me. In the 5 years I’ve been on the scene (speaking of which, yesterday was my 3 year findoms.com anniversary) I’ve been very lazy about filming content for clips & photos and I can honestly say that I’ve gotten more done in the 5 days I’ve been here as far as content goes than I have in the past 5 years - talk about being a lazy brat! :P We’ve filmed a TON of amazing content including literally the most fun clip I’ve ever shot which constsited of Me, Ms Chase, a slave, a 3 foot long gummy worm and a LOT of spit! Look for it soon on the official HeartlessBeauties clips4sale store!
The photo below is of a lovely sub girl I shot with named Layla.
Tomorrow (September 26th) is the first day of Exotica here in Detroit for which I (along with Ms Chase) am a featured event model. It’s one of the main reasons I flew into town and I’m extremely excited as it’s my first “fetish convention” event ever. Naturally I’m a bit nervous, but having my own collared sub for the event has really calmed my nerves and now all I want is to be there! That’s it for now but don’t forget to check out the HeartlessBeauties website - It’s undergoing renovations but will be back in full swing soon! Until then, stay kinky my friends.
Last Month’s Financial Exploits + Updates
So to start off the blog, as many of you know, in September I’ll be taking a trip to Detroit to visit my friendsMs Morgan Chase and Ms Sonia Vaughn! While I’m there, we’re going to spend all our time having TONS of sessions both RT & cam as well as film tons of clips. So be on the lookout for our updated clipstores! As many of you know, I had set up a GoFundMe account for my Detroit trip and within 24 hours, I had raised a SIGNIFICANT amount of money but unfortunately, the account was reported and shut down. But that didn’t stop me! A couple minutes and a lot of determination later, a new gofundme account was born and guess what? In less than a week I raised the $1,500 funding that I required for my trip and a little extra! While my trip won’t be very long (about a week), you can bet your hat that we’re going to make the best of it. I’ll be staying in Detroit’s finest dungeon and will be attending Exotica Detroit (Aka Exoticon)! If you’re a local Detroit kinkster that will be attending, look for us arriving to the event in a decked out limousine hearse!
Speaking of travel and vacation, as you all know I’ve been planning my Europe vacation for over half a year now and finally raised the full $13k that I will need to travel comfortable a few months ago. Some of the places I will travel to are Germany, Czech Republic, Italy, France & England! Those are not all the places I’ll be visiting but they are the main ones I’m focused on. As the dates to my vacation get closer, I will let you know exact cities/dates for any boys who would be interested in sessions both Pro & Findom related.
And what better way to travel than with brand new slave bought luggage? I had been eyeing this elegant blue suitcase set for quite a while and $460 later from a subs wallet, it’s finally mine! I also bought a really cute but small hard shell paisley suitcase for all my delicate items to prevent that they don’t get smashed or completely ruined during my travel. I’ve unfortunately had to learn the hard way to use hard shell suitcases for electronics & expensive makeup/jewelry due to being a complete klutz.
Some of my favorite recent tributes of all times have been vinyls and there are various boys on this site who can attest to my vinyl musical obsession so it was naturally expected that I went absolutely nuts when I saw over 25 brand spankin new vinyls - some of which are extremely RARE and EXPENSIVE on my doorstep. I have a very large musical library and these have been amazing additions to my collection - hands down some of my favorite tributes ever!
And while we’re talking about favorite tributes - I received an absolutely beautiful Coach bag - lately I’ve been really diggin neutrals (browns for the most part) and this bag matches my current style obsession PERFECTLY. The new Juicy bag is also a nice little tribute. I have a love for all things elegant and juicy Juicy Couture is the essence of princess elegance in the fashion accessory world! It’s easy to see why to see why I love JC so much!
Also, early last month I received some brand new Chi hot hair rollers and they are friggin brilliant. I took them to vegas with me last month and they can actually be spotted in my "From The Vaults: Luxury Vegas Trip 2014 - Day 1" video which you can watch HERE.Among some of the other awesome things I received were an awesome teeth whitening system - being a Dentists’s daughter, I’ve always had pristine dental hygiene and always prefer to be safe than sorry. Here’s to keeping my teeth beautiful ;)
And like every month, I got a fair share of awesome shoes! I also got rid of about 40 pairs of shoes I haven’t used in over 3 months - some of them being completely brand new. I posted about it on twitter for Dommes who were interested in soem brand new free shoes :) The shoes that were not claimed by Dommes or friends (Sorry boys no freebies for you) were dropped off at the local women’s shelter last night - hopefully they can make life a little easier for some women in need.
The other morning I had literally just placed an order for about $150 worth of yoga equipment seeing as I’m starting a new Yoga class and my old mat was kind of old. To my surprise, RIGHT AFTER I placed my order I heard the delivery truck roll up to my house and found an awesome yoga set on my front porch lol! I also received an awesome home stereo system(not pictures) from a “retired finslave” - lol retired my ass and a kickass $200 kicker bluetooth stereo! Some other stuff I received were some cheap screen protectors for my little sisters phone. I bought her a samsung galaxy s4 a while back and she’s been complaining it scratches easily - so there ya go lol. Also, I received an awesome set of 12 MAC lipsticks which weren’t even on my wishlist lol, if you guys remember, a few years ago I received over 24 Chanel lipsticks in one blow from a lucky boy and looks like the lipstick fetishists are still raging onwards in the findom world!
Among other things I received were a canon powershot AND an Olympus camera. My electronics closet is home to over 20 different cameras due to my insane technology addiction and I added two more to the mix!
Last but definitely not least, I received an awesome chunk of change via amazon giftcards as well as a couple niteflirt tributes! The boys on niteflirt really do love to spend on amazon! I had one session where I went from draining 3 losers I met on niteflirt to 4 and made over $2400 in amazon giftcards in under $30 minutes and the next day a $1,200 gc from one of those same losers - hooray for using your fetishes against you losers!
In regards to updates - I actually updated my wishlists for once. I usually just shop and buy with my giftcards but for the boys who insist on browsing my wishlist for things they can purchase, I’ve updated ALL of my lists! For you footboys who love browsing & buying, unfortunately the days where you could find cheap ugly pleasers on my wishlist are long since past. Please refrain from asking me to add those tacky pleaser heels to my lists. For any other boy interested in my amazon lists you can find them by clicking HERE. (If you’re looking for my PRIVATE wishlist - you can purchase access to it by clicking HERE) If you would like to purchase any of the items on my carefully curated public lists, send a gift voucher for the amount + shipping to: MistressJezebel91@hotmail.com
Lastly, I have finally quit being lazy and have been on Niteflirt a lot more than usual - especially when it comes to adding more pay to view goodies such as photosets, tasks, mps & clips. Click the graphic below to visit my Niteflirt PTV website: TheSlaveEmporium.com or you can visit me on niteflirt at: Niteflirt.com/MissJezebel. I’ve also included some examples of my most recent UNIQUE tasks & mp3s! Make sure to click & spend! Collect them all!
That’s all for now but do look forwards to my next blog! If you want to keep up with my updates be sure to bookmarks my websites (MissJezebel.com, TheSlaveEmporium.com, PaypigParadise.com) as well as follow me on Twitter @MissJezebel
Til Next time!
The Complete Beginners Guide to Financial Domination - Domme Edition Vol 1
I’m no novice to the world of financial domination. I’ve been around for quite a few years and have had my fair share of mishaps, errors, embarrassments and so forth in the industry (many of which I’ll be discussing below) since everything I did was trial and error. I never had anyone to guide me or mentor me upon entering the scene. Nobody is perfect but there’s always a few factors that can help you steer clear of making the classic mistakes that most Dommes make upon making the choice to dive head first into financial domination.I decided to write this blog because one peek into my fetlife & email inbox will reveal an astounding number of messages from fellow Dommes who ask for advice. I had written a short blog in the past to help new Dommes which I even pinned as a page on my website for females navigating my site who need help and want tips but it wasn’t as thorough as I thought it would be and I still get questions every day so without further adieu, I’m going to get right to it and answer questions that up and coming ladies ask me often.
How do I get a slave?
The answer to this varies from person to person. It really comes down to your own personality and what you are/aren’t willing to deal with. Some subs require LOADS of time and if you’re looking for a quick buck without spending any time with the sub in question, you’re probably going to have a really hard time finding someone. Honesty goes a long way in this fetish and being up front about your abilities and experience is the best policy simply because if you lie about your experience and then have a session with an experienced sub, he will notice. To get a long term sub you have to build a rapport with the sub in question and learn about each other. Remember that long term D/s relationships are exactly what they sound like - a relationship. Just because money is involved does not mean that it should be meaningless.
How do I make myself approachable/desirable?
This one is completely up to you. Different strokes for different folks. Everyone has different tastes when it comes to attitude and looks. To be successful you have to come to terms with the fact that you will not be desirable to everyone and that’s okay. The best thing I can suggest is to be yourself, be honest and fill out your profiles/websites. A well written profile with good content (photos, writing) is possibly the BEST thing you can do to help market yourself. Fill out every last information block, you never know when a sub will want to approach you simply because they think you have an amazing music taste or they like your vanilla activities. Remember that your profile or website is literally the only thing a sub has to go on to form an opinion on you and in this fetish first opinions mean everything. The way you present yourself is ultimately going to be what subs think of you. If you come across as someone who doesn’t care about their profile, has awful quality photos, only makes posts complaining, etc - subs will not associate you with class and elegance which is ultimately what I believe most Goddesses strive for. This leads me to another thing, if all you do is post negatively, people will have a negative perception of you and will run for the hills if you approach them. Avoid posting about timewasters or sob stories etc - subs HATE it and so do most experienced Dommes. It stands out like a sore thumb to most experienced subs and they will steer very clear of anyone complaining.
How can I market myself?
Marketing is an extremely important factor in getting noticed in this world. There are thousands of Dommes both experienced and novice all striving for the same thing and in a niche where money is the key factor, the industry is absolutely cutthroat. When I joined the scene, I refused to get a twitter for two years and boy was that a mistake. Twitter is one of the best free marketing tools a Domme can use. Well executed tweets about both your kink AND vanilla life can reel subs in and get you loyal followers and lots of money. Hashtags are good to use in tweets but don’t overdo them - also, don’t forget to use hashtags directly in your tweet instead of after your main sentence. Everyone has their own definition of a good tweet but I’ll include an example of what I consider a good and bad ”marketing” tweet below”
The difference in the quality of those tweets is quite noticeable (and yes the second one was tweeted only for the purpose of screenshotting lol). You have to set yourself and everything you do to certain standards. If your standards are low quality, that will be the type of subs you attract. Every wonder why the “big names” in the industry always have loyal servants? That’s because they are marketing masterminds and put a lot of time and effort into what they do.
Do subs really care about good photos & graphics?
Short answer - yes for the most part. I know it’s tempting to post a cell phone selfie or a webcam snap quickly and get it over with but a light bit of editing on any photo can really make the difference between low tier and good photo. Always run your photos through a simple editor and fix any lighting problems, graininess, red eye etc. It’s a fairly simple rule to have. Quality over quantity is a good rule to remember. I personally feel that subs will appreciate one good photo with good lighting and a good pose over 10 photos with awful lighting and the same pose slightly altered. Filters are great tools too but don’t overdo them, as with everything, balance is key. Find the balance to create what you think is an awesome quality photo and hold yourself to those standards every time. As for graphics, I’m aware that there’s plenty of people who don’t know how to use photoshop or can’t afford to pay someone to create graphics. That’s not an excuse - if you want a quality website with quality graphics, instead of bashing the Dommes who have them out of jealousy, LEARN. Teach yourself to create these things and it will truly help you as far as marketing goes.
Can I still appeal to subs without too many photos or graphics?
Yes, ultimately it comes down to your expertise as a Dominant and the attitude you have. The things I’ve stated in the last couple answers to questions are all really filler. Many subs look for those things straight off the bat and if you want to appeal to as many subs as possible, marketing and tons of content is definitely the way to go but you don’t have to have all those things to still be successful. There’s subs who can look past the lack of fancy graphics or loads of content and still see the Goddess for who she is - granted, in all honesty those subs are far fewer among the crowds but they ARE there. It goes without saying that you should STILL have a thorough profile to attract subs, if you only have a paragraph in your about me, you’re only going to attract low quality subs.
How do I come up with content?
How do painters create paintings? How do writers create stories? This is a pretty self explanatory question. You have to come up with content on your own out of your own imagination. Nobody will hold your hand and create your content for you. A good place to start is with the standard industry content ideas ex: foot photos, videos, some findom games, etc. When it comes to tasks, it gets trickier. Creating original tasks is actually a pretty big challenge. Brainstorming is great though. What I do is I have a notepad document open all day 24/7. If I have a sudden idea for a task, game or clip I INSTANTLY write it down and save the document just in case my computer were to crash. At the end of the week I have hundreds (I’m not kidding) of ideas on the notepad document and I choose one or two to carry out and elaborate on for a task or clip etc. From there on, the document only gets larger and larger. That’s the way I do it but everyone has their own creative ideas. Your best bet is to give yourself a weekly goal and stick to it.
What about payment? How can I receive money?
There’s an endless amount of ways to receive money. This should never be a problem for anyone. Some payment processors WILL let the sub know some details such as your name/address etc and it’s entirely up to you what you are or aren’t comfortable with sharing with your subs. I’ll include a list of payment processors I have used below.
E Giftcards - for the most part anonymous. A pretty simple way to receive payment if you don’t require ACTUAL money and are happy with store credit etc.
Paypal - does not allow adult transactions. Use only with subs you trust 100 percent. Your details will be shared with subs unless you have a business account that is set up to show your business name instead of your real details.
Greendot moneypak- Anoynmous. Subs can buy a reload at most US gas stations and stores such as walmart and send you the code. You input the code into your personal paypal account and the funds are instantly deposited in your account.
Venmo - Venmo has the possibility of showing your information of you’re not careful with your profile settings. Remember not to link it to any of your personal accounts or use your real name and you should be good. That being said, I LOVE venmo because sending money on Venmo is completely free as long as you use a bank account, supported debit card, or Venmo balance to fund your payments. If you choose to use a credit card, there is a 3% fee which is still pretty low and it has an awesome phone app which is super simple to use.
Niteflirt - standard processor for adult industry that takes 30% Ideally not the best to use for large tributes due to the fact that it will take a large chunk.
Clips4sale, Kinkbomb, Iwantclips & clipvia - Another industry standard way to tribute. Depending on the one you choose, can take anywhere from 10-40% of your tribute but 100% safe and anonymous.
Giftrocket - Pretty safe as long as your sub does not include a kinky message along with the payment. I find that it’s easiest to make an email that sounds vanilla SPECIFICALLY for giftrocket and have a sub send a vanilla sounding message along with the payment. One of my favorite ways to receive payment because you can deposit it directly into your paypal or choose to use it for a number of giftcards to local spas, stores restaurants etc. Can take up to 5 days to process payment so that’s a bit of a drag sometimes. NOT good as a way to receive payment for instant sessions etc because funds can be withdrawn during that 5 day processing time if a sub chooses to.
I want to mimmick/copy a Domme I look up to?
Stop right there. Stop before you even think about doing it again. If you decide to copy someone chances are they WILL notice. It doesn’t matter if you change a word or two every other sentence. People who put time and care into their sites and profiles probably remember every word they’ve written and will spot a plagiarizer before you even realize they know. Stealing content is a HUGE issue in the scene and I’ve been in the scene long enough to unfortunately say that I’ve witnessed it far too many times. If you decide to steal graphics from someone or plagiarize their hard work it will be seen as a HUGE black mark on your career as a professional if that’s what you’re ultimately going for. Just don’t do it. If you decide you still want to do it, expect DMCA takedowns and public ridicule and know that everyone will agree that you deserve it. Originality is a necessity in this fetish and industry - if it’s something you lack, you are probably better suited doing something else with your time.
An owned sub messaged me, what do I do?
Ignore them. It doesn’t matter if they are offering you over $9000! Just ignore the sub and be respectful to what is someone else’s property. If the sub is slutting around, that’s entirely on him - don’t enable him. Something I personally do is message the owner if I know who she is. Respectfully let the owner know what is going on because they deserve to know that their sub is not being respectful to them. Screenshots and a respectful message letting the Domme know go a long way and will show the Domme that you are trustworthy and have excellent integrity.
Why do all my subs fail me?
The answer to this can be many things - some of which can be YOUR fault. Are you instantly collaring subs who want to be owned? Are you even putting them through a consideration period? Consideration periods vary by Domme to Domme but I find that just as it would be in an intimate relationship, time itself ultimately shows you who you are dealing with. You can’t figure out who someone truly is by having them send you a $100 giftcard every week for 4 weeks. The consideration period is EXTREMELY important for anyone wanting to have a long term D/s relationship and by standard practice, subs can be in a consideration period from anywhere from 6 months to YEARS. The best analogy I can think of is of a romantic relationship - think of the consideration period as the time you’re dating the person before you both agree that it’s time to get married. That’s how I think of it and it works very well for me.If you’re properly going through the consideration/collaring process and your subs are still failing you, maybe you have unrealistic expectations of them. If a sub made it through consideration, he obviously is a good sub and up to your standards but if he’s failing you after collaring, perhaps you’re being too hard on him which is VERY easy to do in this fetish. Greed is good for the most part but you have to remember that feeding your greed comes at a big expense to your subs wallet and unless your sub is the owner of a fortune 500 company and making millions left and right, you’re probably being TOO greedy. Set out a budget for your sub, micromanage. Set schedules, for payments, for tasks and remember that not EVERYTHING is about money in your D/s relationship and if it is, it probably won’t last.
I see Dommes publicly calling subs losers/worthless, why doesn’t it work when I do it?
That’s probably because they know or own the sub already and it’s something that’s within their dynamic. You have to remember that a lot of things in the industry are smoke and mirrors type things. Maybe the Domme and sub have a mutual understanding to where the sub gets off on public humiliation, likes to be called worthless loser etc but in private it’s completely different. Dommes roleplay with their subs publicly a lot and that’s not a bad thing. Remember if it’s safe sane and consensual there is NO problem with it - just remember that things aren’t always as they seem with people and their public relationships.
Will I look self centered if I post pictures of my tributes?
This fetish is ALL ABOUT self centered hedonists. For fuck’s sake we call ourselves Goddess, Princess, Queen etc. I highly doubt that everyone who calls themselves a Goddess is living up in the sky with omnipotent & omniscient powers. I highly doubt every princess or queen in the scene actually lives in a castle and rules their own kingdom. :p There’s nothing wrong in gloating and showing off the fruits of you and your sub’s effort. Anyone who says otherwise is probably unhappy with the fruits of their efforts and looking to shoot you down. People that are comfortable with themselves and what they do will be happy that other Dommes are being successful and in my personal opinion and experience, subs love to see their gifts posted and they love it even more if you remember who gifted you what. Just remember to do you.
How can I take quality photos/videos?
There’s a formula to good photos and videos that consists of various things.
Lighting is IMPORTANT, bad lighting can make an otherwise great photo AWFUL. If you can, buying a studio lighting kit on amazon is definitely recommended and they’re usually pretty cheap and yield great results. I’ve seen full professional lighting kits on there as low as $80 which I think is pretty within budget for most people. If you’re on a budget, maybe skip the mani/pedi one week and just buy the lighting kit instead.
Setting is another thing that can completely make or break a good photo or video. Nobody wants to see a photo of you looking beautiful but a dirty mattress without sheets in the background or a complete mess with clothes and trash on the floor etc. I think most of us have been guilty of something that can fit in this category at some point or another, I’m no stranger to this myself. I’ve taken many a photo with my laundry in the background in the past etc. It’s fairly simple, shoot your photos against a professional backdrop set (usually not more than $200 on amazon), against a plain wall, or get a shoji screen panel divider (usually around $150) - trust me it will help the quality of your photo/video settings immensely.
As far as cameras go, most smartphones nowadays have GREAT quality settings. I have the samsung galaxy note 3 and the photos & videos are extremely HD and super good quality. You don’t need to own a fancy camera to yield great results if you have good lighting and background. That being said, in my opinion one should always strive for the best quality they can and if your subs can afford it, I recommend you have them buy you a professional camera. I recently got a Canon t3i with the standard 55 mm lens and was extremely pleased. I also received an additional EF 50mm f/1.8 II lens ($125) which creates depth and awesome focus in videos/photos which I highly recommend to anyone looking for a good lens. It’s a little pricey but definitely worth it.
Is networking & making friends really that important?
100% yes if you plan on ever attempting conventions, doing interviews, being included in projects. In this scene as far as networking goes, you have to give some to take some. Making friends and networking might open certain doors that otherwise may stay firmly shut. This goes for both networking with Dommes AND subs. For example, there’s a few owned subs that have tributed me before they even met their Domme and we decided to remain friends once they were put under consideration/collared by other Dommes. They speak of our friendship to their Domme which in turn, opens doors to someday filming with their Dommes which will appeal to those looking for double Domme experiences and benefit both of us. The possibilities are quite literally endless.
How can I network/make friends?
There’s plenty of ways to make friends in the scene people are for the most part very friendly and open to talking. Joining forums and groups and actively participating in them is a great start. Twitter is another great way to make friends. Follow the people who follow you back, reply to people’s tweets. Be active in findom chats a few time a week and you’ll make friends in no time.
That’s all for now but I hope this blog will help some of the newer Dommes and I’ll be pinning this to the Domme help page on my website! Remember to follow me on twitter @MissJezebel_
Til next time